Last year at this time we were still visiting colleges and waiting on acceptances, not to mention going through all of the senior year craziness with end of high school ceremonies, activities… Wow, what a year can bring. When I think back on everything that has passed it’s amazing how much can change. I knew it was coming but I don’t think you’re ever ready for it. There are growing pains and I’m not going to sugar coat it, having my first go off to college was really, really hard. It changed the dynamics of our home and, as I’m learning, family traditions.
We had our holiday photoshoot a couple of weeks ago and started talking about what we all traditionally do along with favorite holidays memories (go to my Instagram and you can follow the conversation). I told the girls my favorite tradition is that we name our Christmas tree. I know it sounds crazy (and it is) but here’s how it started. We travel a little over an hour to cut down a fresh tree. We’ve been doing it ever since the kids were little. They loved getting out of the car, chasing each other through the trees and being part of cutting it down. The ride back was when they were in need of a diversion (ie. on the verge of meltdowns) which began the naming of our tree. We call out names, it switches from male to female each year and by majority vote decide on a name. We’ve had Christina, Max, Theodore, Noelle, Holly and Peter to name a few. This year I thought, here’s another change that I really don’t want to happen. We didn’t have time to get a tree over Thanksgiving and now the Christmas tree tradition is over. We had plans to get one with my daughter last weekend and at the last minute she said let’s wait until next weekend when all of us can go together. So I suppose I’m not the only one who would like some things to stay the same.
I’m happy to say it is less than a couple of weeks away from Christmas and we still don’t have a tree. BUT we will. I’ll let you know it’s name in a future post:). Wishing you much love spending time with the ones you love, whether continuing old traditions or creating new ones.
I hope you had a great summer! We spent our vacation with eight high school seniors soon to be Freshmen in college, sounds crazy, I know, but it was the perfect way to end our summer. We soaked up every minute of it. Spending time with all these really great kids, all on the cusp of starting something new was special. A couple weeks later we brought our son (first born) to college. I’ve been more or less preparing for this for the past year or rather 18 years, I don’t think though, that will ever cushion a parent from the heartbreak of saying goodbye to their child. Everyone will ask, how was it and honestly all I can think to say is heartbreaking. He is 10 hours away and won’t be home until Thanksgiving. His presence is missed daily even with another sibling still at home. They all have that special something they add to the home and it will be missing. I’m sad but it’s a double edged sword. He is really happy where he is. This is what we’ve been getting him ready to do for the past 18 years. To go out on his own, find happiness, make good decisions, stay safe…When I watched him walk back to his dorm as I sat in the car with tears streaming down my face all I could think was that he has become a young man who has exceeded my wildest expectations (in a good way!). It’s hard to be sad about that. So to all those parents who have sent their kids off to college my heart is with you. I heard it gets easier with time. Now, for me, I’m diving back into a full fall schedule and a lot of fun things to share with you.
This is a repost from last year that I think will help all those parents of seniors starting or in the midst of the campus visits. Good luck!
I’ve spent the past few days driving, more or less, in a circle. We’ve been on the college visit circuit, sitting through presentations, taking tours, asking questions…The car rides have given me a lot of time to think and despite the length of some of these trips it has given me more time. More quality time to spend with my son and more time to prepare myself for him to eventually leave. It gives us a chance to talk about both the mundane and the heartfelt and for me to completely focus on our time together. There are more of those car rides and flights coming up which I’m now looking forward to. I apologize in advance if I’ve fallen behind on posting or taken a bit more time to get back to you but I’ve got a son right now who needs me as much as I need him.
August is just around the corner which means it’s family time for me. My first is off to college and as you can see we’re pretty close. This month is for him, my daughter who will be celebrating her sweet sixteen and of course Mr. Paige P. If you don’t have pictures of you with your family, this is the month to do it. Find a family photographer who can capture your relationships exactly the way that they are. If you’re interested in booking a senior photoshoot with me please know that I’m available beginning in September (which is filling up) Take some time this month to play with the ones you love. Happy August!
I know I’ve mentioned before how much I love photoshoots with sisters. This one with twins Catie and Lauren was no different. We had originally scheduled this for the winter but ended up rescheduling it to one of those unusual days in early spring when the weather was actually cooperating and it felt like early summer.
It sounds odd but there is almost a rhythm that twins/triplets have with each other. It’s not something I can place my finger on but it’s a give and take that is almost rhythmical. I experienced it with Bri and Johnna last year also. I find it fascinating. There’s a comfort level between them that makes the entire shoot extremely calm.
Wistfully, their mom had said they had their portraits when they were babies and now as seniors before they’re off to college this coming fall to 2 different schools.
To do what you love with the ones that you love is a gift. And for that reason alone this particular teen photoshoot will be one of my forever favorites; it included my daughter. I posted this video that my assistant, Casey, created a few weeks ago. Below are a few of my favorite images from that photoshoot.
Spring weather actually seems to be on it’s way! My shooting schedule is filling up. Make sure you call soon if you’re interested in a photoshoot before summer.
This is going to be a short and sweet post. If I delve too deeply I’ll most likely disconnect my keyboard with all the tears dripping down on it. If you’ve been following this blog for a while you’ve seen the occasional heartfelt posts about our college prep/search journey through junior and senior year with my son. Almost a week ago we were anticipating our final 2 college visits. The year long process has been a roller coaster and I was ready for the final decision to be made, I think. The reason I say, I think, is because I wasn’t sure how I was going to feel after that decision.
We’re now on the other side and my son fell in love with his school of choice. I think it’s perfect for him. Now, it’s real. He’s going away. Far away. It’s heart wrenching thinking about him leaving home but it also feels right. It’s time and he is so excited and happy. That’s the way it’s supposed to be, right? As a mom, I guess, I’ve been preparing for this since the day he was born; to raise a happy, healthy child who will grow into an amazing adult. And that is what I try to keep in my head with every day we get closer to the time that he leaves.
I’m sure I’ve got a few more of these wandering, emotional posts in me before end of August. If you’d like to catch up on the past few you can go here , here or here.